It is always a challenge to date someone who is emotionally unavailable. Stereotypically, lots of men are portrayed as such – they are shown as cold-hearted, emotionally abusive and self-centered.
However, such behavior and way of thinking are also common among women, so here’s how to deal with them.
Find an Approach to Her Accordingly
There are usually two types of emotionally unavailable women, and you need to treat them especially if you want to be in their favor.
So the first type is women who need to be attached to their partner. These ladies are emotionally unavailable due to lack of confidence or continuous self-doubt which comes from childhood worries. Perhaps, this woman has always been attached to her mother (however, rather behaviorally than emotionally) and will try to find a partner who treats her the same way.
So the strategy is to play a role of a “savior” for her. Although there are risks of getting into an unhealthy relationship, you can try to build a relatively compatible one where your woman will be more dependent on you than vice versa. Suggest your strong shoulder for such a woman.
Another type of women is the opposite – they usually push people away from themselves (even though they love them) and are actually independent. It is an avoiding type.
To conquer a heart of an ice-maiden, you will have to give her what she needs – more free space. She might need to restore her inner energy and get more private space before she is ready to get into something serious. You will need to be always prepared to give her what she asks for – freedom.
Be Ready To Compromise First
Emotionally unavailable people don’t like compromises. But there can be no relationship where there is no compromise at all, so if you love your woman , you will always have to be the first to compromise.
And do not be afraid of being labeled as a “wife booty.” Consider what is more important to you – the public opinion or the happiness of both of you in the relationship? If you are not ready to make concessions in the name of love, think twice before entering a relationship with an emotionally unavailable person.
Brace For Their Perfectionism
Such women tend to look for their own fatal flaws as well as imperfections in their partners. So when she tells you something’s wrong with your wardrobe or behavior, and it may sound to you as if she’s mad at you or doesn’t like you – no worries.
She just wants everything to be right according to her expectations. Furthermore, she might be scared of intimacy with you. Thus, she will try to push you away with such words to get freed.
But all you need to do is to remain persistent. Do not give up and your woman will open up to you with time as she will see in you a person who she can really trust.